Tuesday, December 13, 2011


Today has been an emotional day for me. I learned that a friend of mine lost her husband, he was in his late 30's, they just moved into a new home, they have 3 children, and another on the way.
How is that life can change that fast for someone? How can it be that one moment so many wonderful things are happening, and the very next you have lost your best friend?
I do not even know what to say to comfort her, "sorry" sounds so wrong, because "sorry" is for when you break something, or make a mistake...but when your best friend, the person you loved, and shared your life with is taken suddenly from you, and your children, sorry does not even come close!
I can not even imagine what she is going through right now, I know it must be like a nightmare that you can not wake from, that everything you knew id gone just like that!
This has made me stop and think about everything...presents for Christmas are now not so important...if I have the people I love with me, that is all that really matter, and what I want my children to learn from this.
It is getting to me even more because of the fact that he died on the 6th year anniversary of the passing of my Mom, December 11th. Her death was not a surprise, but a death just the same.
Rest in peace Ed, you will be missed, and we are sending so much love to your family!

Friday, December 2, 2011

Tis the season

It is that time again when parents all over the world hear their children talking about what they want for Christmas, or in our home Yule.
This is when many parents start to stress, and worry about if they can afford these things that their children so want.
I am one of those people, we are a single income family, not totally by choice, but it is there. We really do not have a 'full-time' income.
Why do we do this, and why do we allow ourselves to be stressed year after year?
I know that many will stay that it is because we love our children, but I must ask, Do we really think that our children only feel that we love them if we buy that IPod touch?
I know better, but I also know that I love it when they open that special birthday, and you see it, that wonderful, magical look in their eyes, the look of "I really got it" The happiness you know that they feel at that second.
So I ask, how do you do that when you don not have the money to obtain the "it" present?
This is my quest this year to find a way to give them the happiness, but without needing that much money!